September 21st, 2018
One of the hardest times to be a parent is during a divorce or separation. Children are at risk when parents cannot contain their own emotional process. It is vital during this time to have an outlet for your own well-being – this could be friends, family, or therapy. It is hugely beneficial to keep your own feelings and needs separate from your children. For virtually all children, divorce is a challenging transition. However, children are very resilient and, if managed carefully, they may carry the mark of the divorce without any permanent damage to their emotional and mental health.
With the right help, children can emerge emotionally healthy from a separation. But this takes a conscientious effort for the parents to manage personal and legal aspects in a responsible and adult manner away from the children. To protect your children, it is important that, wherever possible, you manage your personal grief and fears separately. Therapy can help play an important role in helping you process emotions to enable a smoother transition for your children. Separating your feelings from your child’s needs is the essential starting point for this process.
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Counsellor / Psychotherapist
at Counselling Development
Emma Chamberlain is a respected and highly-qualified Counsellor / Psychotherapist based in Stony Stratford, Milton Keynes. Emma is experienced with successfully working with clients experiencing a wide range of issues, including anxiety, depression, stress, panic attacks, emotional distress, low self-esteem, relationship problems, work-related problems, grief, bereavement and loss, fear, anger, trauma, self-harm, sexual abuse, domestic abuse, bullying, suicidal thoughts and those struggling with life’s transitional times.
Emma has a strong academic background including a BA (Hons) in Psychology and an MSc in Integrative Psychotherapy. Emma worked extensively as a Counsellor for MIND – the UK’s leading mental health charity. Emma is an accredited member of the British Association of Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP) and works to their ethical framework.
Emma works from a humanistic relational perspective following the Clarkson 5 Relationship Model. This offers a flexible relationship based approach to counselling / psychotherapy and can include CBT/ DBT and a range of other approaches. Emma’s current research interests include exploring how counsellors and clients work together when the client has Asperger Syndrome and she is experienced in working with adults on the Autistic Spectrum.
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