August 3rd, 2018
This is a popular saying currently doing the rounds on the internet. But is it useful?
When in the process of divorce or separation memories and events can seem painful and challenging. Forgetting is hard, perhaps even impossible for some. But changing the way you see things is possible and is essential to your recovery. It is hard to forget moments, words or events so it is more realistic to accept you will remember but work on how to recover.
Recovery is about personal growth and rest. Forgiveness is often about another person’s needs. Perhaps forgiveness is possible but recovering fully and productively first is a good idea. The language we use to talk to ourselves is highly influential in how we feel and therefore act.
Forgiveness means to pardon, excuse, feel no malice or even bury the hatchet.
Recovery means to heal or recuperate.
Forget means to fail to recall, neglect, abandon or ignore.
Remember means to have an awareness of or recall.
The language surrounding remembering and recovering is productive and positive and realistically possible. It is a highly useful strategy during divorce or separation to work on your own recovery and remembrance strategies rather than to try to unrealistically forget or forgive often painful circumstances.
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Emma Chamberlain is a respected and highly-qualified Counsellor / Psychotherapist based in Stony Stratford, Milton Keynes. Emma is experienced with successfully working with clients experiencing a wide range of issues, including anxiety, depression, stress, panic attacks, emotional distress, low self-esteem, relationship problems, work-related problems, grief, bereavement and loss, fear, anger, trauma, self-harm, sexual abuse, domestic abuse, bullying, suicidal thoughts and those struggling with life’s transitional times.
Emma has a strong academic background including a BA (Hons) in Psychology and an MSc in Integrative Psychotherapy. Emma worked extensively as a Counsellor for MIND – the UK’s leading mental health charity. Emma is an accredited member of the British Association of Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP) and works to their ethical framework.
Emma works from a humanistic relational perspective following the Clarkson 5 Relationship Model. This offers a flexible relationship based approach to counselling / psychotherapy and can include CBT/ DBT and a range of other approaches. Emma’s current research interests include exploring how counsellors and clients work together when the client has Asperger Syndrome and she is experienced in working with adults on the Autistic Spectrum.
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