July 24th, 2018
Summer is a time that is not often recognised for melancholy. Winter we understand - the lack of sunlight can make some of us feel low and the shorter days allow less time for activity. But winter allows us the time for down days without the guilt of feeling we should be busy and outside. There is a pressure attached to warmer days that doesn’t exist during winter.
This summer you may be struggling to feel enjoyment or happiness. You may have external stressors such as a divorce or separation that are consuming your time and energy regardless of the better weather. The summer may cause changes in your normal routines with holidays (your own or other peoples) disrupting the norm and perhaps more social occasions to hopefully enjoy or just negotiate.
Summer can be a busy time. It is important in times when external factors may feel overwhelming to know your own areas of control or know what it is you want to achieve. As Jane Austen writes in Sense and Sensibility: ‘know your own happiness, want for nothing but patience or give it a more fascinating name – call it hope’. The idea of knowing your own happiness could really help during the summer months if you are feeling overtaken by the needs of others or the demands of a difficult situation. Look to create your own hope even in small ways. Another Jane Austen quote, this time from Emma: ‘over half the world do not understand the pleasures of others’.
Have a think, write a list – be mindful and aware that this list is specific to you and that things – however small – that make you happy, or even just calmer for a few moments, are valuable. Create some objectives of ways in which you can strive for moments of happiness over the summer in what can often be a busy and chaotic time.
Counsellor / Psychotherapist
at Counselling Development
Emma Chamberlain is a respected and highly-qualified Counsellor / Psychotherapist based in Stony Stratford, Milton Keynes. Emma is experienced with successfully working with clients experiencing a wide range of issues, including anxiety, depression, stress, panic attacks, emotional distress, low self-esteem, relationship problems, work-related problems, grief, bereavement and loss, fear, anger, trauma, self-harm, sexual abuse, domestic abuse, bullying, suicidal thoughts and those struggling with life’s transitional times.
Emma has a strong academic background including a BA (Hons) in Psychology and an MSc in Integrative Psychotherapy. Emma worked extensively as a Counsellor for MIND – the UK’s leading mental health charity. Emma is an accredited member of the British Association of Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP) and works to their ethical framework.
Emma works from a humanistic relational perspective following the Clarkson 5 Relationship Model. This offers a flexible relationship based approach to counselling / psychotherapy and can include CBT/ DBT and a range of other approaches. Emma’s current research interests include exploring how counsellors and clients work together when the client has Asperger Syndrome and she is experienced in working with adults on the Autistic Spectrum.
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